#42: How loving others changed my life

Jeanette Peterson 0:08

Do I feel compelled to give to the man who sits outside of Walmart every day? And I said, No, I don't

Jeanette Peterson 0:21

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Jeanette Peterson 1:07

Hey, girl, hey. So it is the season of love and giving and all those great magical things. And you know what? You must know God then. Because God is love. I have not always known God, because I used to think that everybody was against me. And I had a scarcity mindset. I had a mindset of people were gonna take and hurt me. And that was just life. Everybody's gonna hurt me. Everybody's against me. Nobody cares about me. And I realize that God is love. So if I think that everything that is happening to me, is out of love. If I put the new lens on it, if I change my glasses and say, okay, this person cut me off because of love I can think, okay, they cut me off because they are being loving because somebody, maybe they're in a hurry. And they really need to get somewhere. And that's why and so I can show them grace and love because I have been in that position. Oh, my goodness, my dog is dying, I have to go and I'm gonna cut everybody off, because that's my part because I love so much that dog. I'm not saying everything that I did in that moment was right and neither are they but they are human, which is why we have grace. So what does it look like to have love lead everything in your life? What does that look like? And there's a difference between love and like, you have to have love, just have to have boundaries, right? You have to have boundaries. So we're a Bible study a couple weeks ago, and this girl asked me, Do I feel compelled to give to the man that's outside of Walmart every day? And I said, No, I don't. It's not that I don't love him. I don't know him. It's more like God will tell me what my job is in the Spirit and my job is not to give to every single person in need that's just not how it works. I have my place and if God tells me give money to that person, I will. But I'm not going to do it because I think that's what God wants. I don't know what God thinks. I just know what he tells me to do. So when he tells me to move, I move, but I just don't move because I think that's the right answer. I'm not I'm not here to guess I'm here to listen and obey. In First John four, eight, it says Whoever does not love does not know God. Because God is love. I've got a coach who I'm not gonna lie she triggered me at first I was like who is this hippie lady? She ain't got no bra on and I can see the hair under her armpit. So what is this? This is this is not what I signed up for. I paid this much money to see this what is this? But as I got to know her, she is love. Like literally whatever she thinks up on whatever she's doing in her business or when she's coaching us. It's out of love it's out of I want the best for you. It's out of this is what I think would be really great for you. This is this is love. And I love that about her. You know what love looks differently. Love is undefinable love does not come in a box. But you know it when you see it. You know what I mean? You know it when you see it, you know that person is love and they are doing everything with the utmost integrity with the love in their heart with the just veracity for life and for having everybody else feel that and that's what I want. I want everybody else to feel the love that I felt. Because I've been through so much, it'd be so easy for me to say, God is fake. God doesn't love you, God is bullshit. That's why bad things happen to people. But God is love. And I can take the situations that I was in and give people grace for their mistakes, because they're human and say, to my sexual assault attacker, that he was just loving himself, because he didn't know how to love others. So he couldn't love me or love others, or show appreciation for others, because he loved himself so much. And obviously, that's bad. But I've done that. I've loved myself so much that I didn't care about other people. So I have to show him grace. I don't have to like, say he's a wonderful person. No, he's still a shitty person who did a shitty thing to me, comma, however, I can see him at a human level, which is way different than I've ever been able to do before. And I'm not saying this is an easy place to be, but I can see it, I can, I can have grace for a human being making a horrible mistake to me and moving on. I don't have to hold on to that. Because I have the love of God inside me and I trust him. I don't see God, he talks to me, he tells me I'm on the right path and I can trust that. So now whenever I talk to other people in their business, about our business, or even to my business partner, to my husband, or to my kids, I'm always thinking about how can this be the best for them. I'm not trying to make myself smaller, but I'm trying to like make myself so big that my heart is just exploding with love, that I can do the best thing for them in the situation. And that's normally where I try and make my motivation come from. It's not like I want to take something from them, or they did me wrong or anything like that, I really want to see where they're at, find out what's best for them, and give that to them out of love. Like that's, that's what I want. Right now I'm going back and forth with my husband on if we're going to homeschool or not if that was good for our family, if that's what's good for her, if that's what's good for me as the person that would be doing the homeschooling. And I keep saying yes, because I love my daughter, because I want what's best for her future. And because I want to see what God can do in her life out of love. I'm not trying to be a martyr here. But like I would rather go down and all of my capacity in order to teach her because I am a steward of the things that he's given me God, and he's given me my daughter to steward and to grow up. And I only have so much time to do that before it's too late. So I want to use the best of my ability out of love for her and her future to do what I think is best. And it's a hard decision. Because I don't know what's best, because I can't see the future. Because I don't know. But I do know that if I asked God to open doors or close doors and pray over my daughter and tell me to do the right thing he's gonna show me the path for her he's going to show me what I should be doing for her. And I believe that what does loving others look like in your life? When you're not being selfish or loving yourself more than you love others? What does that look like? I know that's something hard to wrap your mind around and it's hard to be in that mindset but just say about one person was it look like to love your husband greatly. What does it look like to change the way you talk to him because you love him and not because you're mad because he did something to you or you think he did something to you change that heart posture? You got this?

Jeanette Peterson 8:48

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