#12: It goes down in the DMs!

Jeanette Peterson 0:05

I'm in it for people who legit want to change lives, for people who legit want to build relationships that change people's lives.

Jeanette Peterson 0:32

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Jeanette Peterson 1:40

Hey, girl, hey, you know sometimes I find it super easy to connect with people because I don't know. I just do. And I meet a lot of my friends in the DMS. I'm not gonna lie in the DMS girl. I'd be giving them DMS. I'd be asking questions. I'd be pumping people up. That's just who I am. I am like a cheerleader for cheerleaders. And that's how I met Amy. Amy, I don't know what you think this talking to you on the podcast because I know you're gonna listen to it. But I didn't meet you in a Facebook group girl. I met you and then DMS. So I met Amy I'm gonna tell you about the story. I met Amy. She's our podcast coach, by the way. Check her out. She's in the show notes. Also. I met Amy because I saw her doing podcast stuff. And she said she was a podcast coach. And I was like, Oh, God's been telling me to make a podcast forever. That'd be great. So I sent her a video DM I was like, Hey, girl, I love your stuff. I am thinking of making a podcast. I'm so glad to like watch your stuff and learn from you. This is gonna be amazing relationship. Talk to you soon. Bye. Video, Video Message something along those lines. And then she DM'd me back because I did not say anything in the DM that was hey, this this is this blah, blah, blah. If you want to reach your your goals on Instagram, please do this or we want you to be part of this and blah blah blah.

Jeanette Peterson 3:15

No, I treated her like she was a person because that's what she is. That's what people like misconstrue about, like getting in the DMS is that they think they're just talking to like nobody. Hello, you're talking to a person, a living, breathing, thinking feeling person on the other end. So treat everybody like that. And that's just what I do. I just treat people like I would want to be treated like a person. And like the golden rule, like the most legit golden rule. So when you're DMing people and you come from that place, people are gonna respond. And now she's like one of my best friends we talk all the time on Marco Polo. She does our podcasts we've helped her with coaching stuff like it's, it's a full on relationship now from like getting them DMS. So I just want to encourage people to do that. Every once in a while. Get in the DMS that could be as simple as looking at somebody's stories and responding to them. Oh my gosh, I love what you do with your kids. I've always wanted to do X, Y and Z how was it being a general person like like talking I just talked to everybody like they're my best friend even if they don't know me because I don't know it just makes it easier. It makes the the awkwardness go away because I just am naturally awkward so it's easier for me to just pretend like I've already known them like you know how you like look at somebody's like Facebook or Instagram when you like in their space and you like around them and you are in their orbit and you see the things they do you feel like you kind of know them anyways

Jeanette Peterson 5:01

So you're like, Hey, girl, how are the kids? Blah, blah, blah? And you're like, Oh, the kids are good. And then they probably look at you like, Who is she? I don't remember her. Oh, she's nice. I like her. She's fun. Then maybe they follow you back. Maybe you guys do something together, like maybe you guys do a podcast episode together. Maybe you guys do. Like nothing together. But maybe you guys are just friends, maybe you guys would come become referral partners. Maybe they buy your services, I don't know. But like the game, quote, unquote, is not a game. It's not even a game. It's not even a thing. The real game is making friendships and relationships that eventually turn into whatever. I'm here to serve. So if I can help you in some way, serve you, let's go like that's what it is. And if that is not your overall mission, if your mission is to become famous, to become famous, and to get money to get money, you need to turn this podcast off because I am not your girl. Sorry, boo, boo. This is not for you. I'm in it for people who legit want to change lives? For people who legit want to build relationships that change people's lives? So where are you on my journey? Can you DM somebody? Can you be authentic? That's why I think people don't like sales. Sales is nothing more than telling people what you're offering.

Jeanette Peterson 6:35

And showing them how you help. But it doesn't have to come from a place of hey, best friend that I haven't talked to you in 15 years. Guess what I'm doing now look at this MLM I meant please buy this thing. No, I don't. I don't do that. Because I don't like that. If you don't like being on the other side of it, don't do it like that. I like people who didn't really reach out to me and just want to say hi, and like, give me a positive affirmation for the day. That feels good. I think everybody likes that. So that's what I do. And then eventually, maybe you will buy something from me. But if you don't, that's also okay. Because I'd rather just make friends and sell my stuff and show you what kind of person I am. Then to come from a position of you have to buy my thing because I need to buy this because I need to buy this because we need to buy this you have to buy my thing. Please, please, please, please, please buy my thing. Please me my thing. Please buy my thing, please. Well, I think please, please, please, please. eww, gross, eww. Gross. Just be you, boo.

Jeanette Peterson 7:47

Step into that actual person that you actually are and be that. Just show up like that in an authentic way that you're a person and just pretend like everybody's your mom that you're talking to. If you have a great relationship with her, just be like, Hey, girl. Hey, what's going on? Hey, hey, hey, hey, that's why I start out this podcast like this. Hey, girl. Hey, because you're my friend already. And I know you. And if I don't know you, I will soon. Just DM me. And let's have a chat. I like Star Wars and I like jigsaw puzzles. And I like Legos. So there's some things you can DM me about? I will tell you all the Tea about all those things. Don't ask me about the Kardashians because I don't know nothing about them girls. So DM folks, make that normal. Talk to you soon because you gonna DM me. Holla at ya girl.

Jeanette Peterson 8:56

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