#36: Put Yourself First

Jeanette Peterson 0:06

We need to take care of us first. Why don't we do that? As moms, as women, as modern independent women, we take care of everybody else first. Why are we doing that? Jesus didn't even do that

Jeanette Peterson 0:32

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Jeanette Peterson 1:40

Hey, girl, hey, I hope you having a good week. Here in the Burg. It's my town, the Burg here in the Burgh, there's a little sickness going around and my daughter was sick for a couple of days, high fevers, chills, throwing up the whole typical flu stuff, not COVID Got it tested. Also, we are sanctified. And we have anointed ourselves in oils. We don't get COVID are on here. Just saying okay, so it wasn't COVID took a test just to be sure because the doctor said to but it wasn't COVID It's a flu. She's doing good. And this morning, I took my other daughter to school because she does not have the sickness, the ache, whatever it is. Now, my home, we live in a little country town. So like I was driving down the road and there's like trees everywhere. And I'm watching the leaves fall and the colors and it's just so beautiful. And I was just remembering what it's like to be quiet. I haven't I haven't had the quietness and a couple of days because I've been taking care of my daughter. And if I'm not like talking to her or helping her or cuddling her. I was literally like doing other things for work. Like in the middle. Like I wasn't like actually working but I was I was not in my quiet zone. I didn't have my quiet time. I did not do any of that. It was just like, survival. Take care of kids make sure they're medicated. No fevers, throwing up all the things right. And I finally got some quiet. Now I was thinking I was like, Oh, yes, this is what I've been needing. It was a lot of anxiety. And I've had pretty under control for a little while. Like a few months. It's not like I'm like some anxiety killer now. But I've been having under control for a few months. And I realized what Jesus must have thought about when Lazarus sisters called him and said, Yo, your best friend is dead. Now I'm a military spouse, I'm a military veteran. So like we are literally not around anybody who has family, our friends, our family. I talk to you my long term friend like since fifth grade, almost every day. She is my family. And I remember back in high school, she was like, sometimes I don't think my parents or my my family, my friends or my family. And I get that, especially being military because you're moving all around. You have to set up shop in this new town very quickly. Connect with people and love on them and hopefully they love you back really fast. And I was like, Yo, Jesus didn't have like kids, asking him to do something every day but he had like the known world literally asking him every day to perform miracles to perform Um, exorcisms, I don't know a lot of things, right. They, they he was in high demand. Okay. He was the man on the scene. He was that guy. He was like, the person that people turn to no matter what. Oh, Jesus is in town. Oh, we better go see him. Jesus, Jesus, Jesus Do you? Like it's like, the scene in beauty, the beast at the beginning where everybody's talking about Bell, everybody was talking about Jesus. Straight up, everybody was talking about Jesus. They were like, Yo, we need to get this guy. You know, he did several times. He says, I know y'all need some healing, but I need to talk to my daddy, I need to go get quiet. I need to go have some quiet time. I need to do this before I can help you. I need to help me first. And he wasn't being selfish. He was just being real, like I can't. My cup is empty. Yo. There's nothing in there. I know, I can turn water into wine. But I can't fill my own cup. I cannot do that. So when his best friend, his best friend died. And he was like, I need some time. I can't come right now. I have to wait. I need you to wait. And then he went home to see his friend, his best friend that died his family. I realized this morning as I was driving home. We need to take care of us first. Why don't we do that? As moms as women as modern independent women,

Jeanette Peterson 6:36

we take care of everybody else. First. Why are we doing that? Jesus didn't even do that. He spent 40 days in the desert. Don't you think somebody need healing those 40 days? Don't you think somebody need deliverance in those 40 days, I can guarantee you a couple people did. But he had to take care of himself first. And it's not so you can just like I don't know, mess around and play video games. That wasn't it. It was to get centered in God in the Holy Spirit to know who you are, what you need to do, and get back right on track.

Jeanette Peterson 7:21

I don't record the podcast every day, obviously. Because it doesn't come out every day. And so like I need that space, of quietness, of nature, of healing of light of God. In order to create an episode, I just do. The episodes come out where I have been working all day. And then then I record are the worst episodes because they don't come from God. And that's the type of content that I want to create is totally channeled from the Holy Spirit. I feel like I know a lot of things not to my own horn. I know a lot of people. And I know a lot of different types of things, right? Like, you want to ask me about cybersecurity, you want to ask me about being in the military and the rules that come with that. You're gonna ask me about changing oil. I got you, girl. But you know what, that's what this podcast is about. It's not about any of those things. It's about becoming unapologetically unstoppable. It's about being you the way God made you to be. Which means taking time off from your kids and being like, Hey, honey, I'm gonna take a walk without the kids because you know what, I need this. And it's not being selfish. The dishes are still gonna be there. When you get back. I guarantee you he's not gonna do them. And you know what, even if you put them in wrong, you can run that thing twice. Did you know that this washers are not going to tell on you if you run it twice. This is not it's not gonna telling you. So do it. I'm not judging you. There are no standards. You decide what those standards are and you dictate what you need. And I know that I need quiet time. I walked in the house. My daughter is so sick. And when she's sick, me and my husband trade off. So like I will take her the first couple of days and then he'll take the last couple of days. It just works better that way because he's in the military and he's got a lot of things he's got to do. I try and like help him out as much as I can. This morning I came home and he was like Hey babe a little a little a little and she was like hey mom, bla bla bla and I was like, timeout pause. Mama is still in like this zone of quietness. I can no longer input I need I need to put up a barrier right now. And I need to go downstairs I need to be in my zone. This is when I can create. This is When I can get messages from the Holy Spirit, and I was like, I love you guys. I walked downstairs, please don't talk to me. I can't hear it right now. And I wasn't being rude. I was just like, I love you. God has put this on my heart. And I have to say no to you for an hour, maybe an hour, listen to you for an hour, you guys get the rest of my attention. But right now I need this for me. And for you, quite frankly. So you know what? That's just what it is. And there's nothing wrong with needing space. And there's nothing wrong with saying it out loud. You are not being selfish. I don't know. Why would you feel bad about saying things like I need something? Because you do, and you're a person who has needs and wants and desires. And it's okay as a mom to also have needs, like quiet time. I can't do it with kids. I can't. I get very anxious. I can't do it with kids. I have to have quiet time by myself. I can't even do with my husband. I love him. So I need you to learn how to keep quiet. Put yourself first do less.

Jeanette Peterson: 11:32

And say no.

Jeanette Peterson: 11:41

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